I totally agree with Asadora's opinion. Those very special moments after play, touching and talking about what was done and what was pleasing or wrong during the session I've always found very inspiring - both as a D or now as s. It is both - the session and the aftercare what builds strong emotional relationship between M and s. Without any of these parts bonds are incomplete and weak.

i agree. while aftercare, if needed, should always be provided, it doesn't necessarily have to come from the Top you've just played with. it can come from a group of other floaty subs or from your primary partner should they be present and willing to provide it.

and you know, sometimes just staying in that floaty moment is a good thing. i don't necessarily want to be touched right away when i'm still experiencing sub space. my Master knows me well and can read me so perfectly that He knows what i need always. He also told me that while He too enjoys that time it's not about Him in that moment and He's perfectly fine to let me fly a bit longer if that's what i desire. He always seems to time His touch perfectly with when i need it. you just can't get that from a casual acquaintence.

The more pain the better I always say. Cannot find a good sadist where I live. However, no floatys for me until after the fact. In truth, I would rather be screaming the whole time, preferrably for more than an hour. The after care serves another purpose for me. I happen to like sex way more than most. I use the aftercare to take care of things like that. Since I have an astounding hard time achieving an orgasm, I take that time for that as well. It isnt something they are doing wrong, it is simply my lot in life. When all is said and done, I walk away and have the ability to never look back, unless you decide to play again. However, since all of my friends are vanilla, even though they all know down to a man, what I do, picking up the aftercare does nothing but make me have to sit and defend you and that is something I do not wish to have to do, since I end up defending and explaining myself as well. You are not doing anything wrong and neither am I.
As far as I am concerned and this may blackmark me totally but I believe in extreme honesty. I love what you give. I give myself to you to do this. You love doing it and apparently need it yourselves, or you wouldnt be doing it. What does it hurt, to give a girl something she never gets from anyone but a top, Dom or Master. The kind of trust and respect you receive is never given to the folks in vanilla relationships. So it takes extra time. It only ends up making you look better and earning the trust and respect they handed you to begin with unearned.
Besides, some of us are simply hardcore and have lives and jobs that do not instill a pampered moment, a good word, a kind gesture. Ha,,just try liking sex with the pain and then have to find someone who can keep up. Doesnt happen often.

a perfect example of why AC should be discussed along with everything else before playing with someone new. making sure everyone is on the page seems a simple thing to do beforehand to make sure all goes well for everyone and we all get what we want (or don't want as the case may be)